Big City Cowgirl – Every Time
ARTIST NAME: Big City Cowgirl
SONG TITLE: Every Time
RELEASE DATE: January 19, 2019
Discuss your personality.
Growing up in New York, I’m a tough cookie. Sometimes I can say something and it comes across wrong because I have a very strong personality.
I am assertive, strong-willed, and totally type A. I have a playful and funny side too, and I love to laugh. I am respectful of all people, and friendly. I am honest, practical, considerate and hard-working.
Oftentimes I find myself overextending myself to be helpful to those who ask for help.
I also try to be upbeat and positive. I filled my work space with all positive affirmation wall-hangings so that anyone who enters feels the favorable energy of the room, and that typically sets the tone of my interactions.
Discuss your existence as a musician.
I am an active songwriter who records about 2-3 songs a year. Although songs come to me at all times of the day and night, I try to dedicate time to do music every single evening.
I find it extremely helpful to listen to all types of music in my quest to develop interesting ideas for songs. I listen carefully to the things that people say and all the things that happen around me because there are valuable song titles and ideas everywhere.
I gravitate to creative people and welcome ideas to better my craft.
I play guitar well enough to put down my ideas for music, but I’m certainly not going to win awards for guitar proficiency. I really picked up the guitar as a means to share my ideas although I would love to find the time to become much better at it.
I seek out people’s input regarding my songs. For instance, I like to share my creations with co-workers and other non-musicians to get the public’s perspective on what I’m doing right or doing wrong.
Having music in me is like a blessing and a curse. It’s a blessing always – but the curse side is when you love music and write music, your soul is longing to be doing that one thing above most other things all of the time, and unless you’re a mainstream artist who is making tons of money from music, it isn’t feasible to spend most of your time engaged in musical endeavors.
Tell us the benefits and drawbacks of choosing music as a career.
I took a break in music to get a law degree, get married and start a family. When my daughter was just an infant, she had an affinity for music and I realized that I could balance my personal life with my love of music and desire to pursue a music career.
When you choose to work towards a music career, your lifestyle changes because you have to forfeit some time with your family and friends. You also have to prioritize your time in other ways. It can take a toll on your family because your family has to understand that sometimes you have to be in another room writing music, or at the studio recording and so forth. They have to listen to the writing stages where songs are being created.
For non-musicians, that can be annoying sometimes, because you are playing the same song over and over again, making changes, when they are trying to watch television and so forth.
There are also financial changes because you are spending money on music that could be used for other family purposes. You need supportive people around you or else you can lose relationships along the way. I am blessed to have a family that encourages me on a daily basis.
It takes time, patience and perseverance, as well scheduling changes. Even my dogs are “all in” as they like to sit around me when I am writing songs.
The benefits of choosing a career in music are personal fulfillment, an opportunity for personal expression, a way to affect people and their emotions, making a contribution to the music community, and changing people for the positive through song.
The drawbacks are long hours, unpredictable schedules, uncertain results, financial risks, issues with trusting people in the music business, sorting out scams, and figuring out what is the proper way to proceed in terms of career goals.
Tell us how you will manage fame as an established artist.
Being a bit older and having life experience, I think I will manage fame just fine.
I would keep my healthy habits, maintain a schedule, try not to take criticism too seriously, have close friends do reality checks on me to make sure that I remain the same person I was before the fame, keep as much of my private life private as I can, and interact appropriately with fans and other persons with whom I deal.
Elaborate on the storyline of this song.
‘Every Time’ is a song that I wrote after a fight with my husband.
The first draft of the song was very different from how the song exists now.
Originally written in anger, the song is actually an anthem supporting marriage.
The lyrics talk about how even though your partner may drive you insane sometimes, you would still choose them again and again because they are the right fit for you.
Every married person whom I let listen to the song before it was released told me they could relate to the song.
After it was released, I got the same feedback from people who heard it.
The song takes you through the thought process of a person who has been married for a while. I like to say that it’s about “real life marriage.”
Share your press release and reviews with us.
Big City Cowgirl is not your average country music singer / songwriter.
She blends her urban upbringing in Brooklyn – along with the eclectic musical tastes ingrained in her, and encouraged, by her parents – to create her own distinctive country music sound.
Sometimes twangy, sometimes gritty, sometimes sounding a little too New Yawk in her songs, she credits her sense of eccentricity and playfulness, coupled with how a song’s mood strikes her when she is writing it, as to how she sings each song.
“I never know who’s gonna come out of me,” she laughs, “and I go with it.”
Regardless, her raspy, notable voice is undeniably recognizable in every tune.
Big City Cowgirl’s love of music dates back as far as she can remember.
She acknowledges that she doesn’t follow the mainstream – she writes from her heart and soul – whatever comes naturally – and hopes that she makes her musical mark.
Her aim is straightforward – to make a positive difference in peoples’ lives through song.
To that end, she says that her greatest desire is for her songs to become a part of the soundtrack of people’s lives.
“I won’t stop making music because it’s cathartic for me,” she says candidly, “and if what I write resonates with people that’s a win / win for me.”
Case in point – her most recent song entitled EVERY TIME.
“It’s a song about how marriage really goes down,” she laughs, “and everyone who hears it has told me that they can relate.”
A self-proclaimed anomaly, Big City Cowgirl credits her inspiration as being everything she experiences on a daily basis. She certainly has a lot of material from which to choose.
“My experiences run the gamut so the motivation for my creativity is everywhere,” she explains, “By day, I have a very rewarding job in the legal profession and by night, I am a mom, a wife, a friend, a songwriter, and just about everything else to everyone else.”
Big City Cowgirl resides in New York with her husband, her daughter and her four dogs.
She is a supporter of animal rights, and making the world a better place for future generations.
She believes in God, her country, dreams coming true, and living life with a sense of purpose.
“I’m just having fun, she exclaims, “But in a responsible way. If that makes any sense – Isn’t that what life is all about?”
Big City Cowgirl expects 2019 to be personally and professionally phenomenal.
As she puts it, “I am truly blessed in every way and I count those blessings every day.”
“Big City Cowgirl is true to her persona, hailing from New York and making old-soul cowgirl tunes that would impress even the most die-hard of old-school country fans…Her high-pitched, raspy and vibrato-heavy voice creates a sound reminiscent of classic women in country before her like Loretta Lynn and Dolly Parton.”
– Crank It Country, Conner Fersner
“Big City Cowgirl’s voice and musical stylings are a throwback to when the music ran the business – The kind that elicits smiles and leaps of joy. She forges real feelings that leave you reeling, not the Hallmark greeting card trifles or the chauvinistic posturing that characterizes so much of today’s country music. No, friends, this is the real deal – well written, well played, and well sung.”
– Soundlooks, Jeena Johnson
“With a voice that has the strength, range, and beauty along the likes of Carrie Underwood, Grace Slick, and Stevie Nicks…Big City Cowgirl has a very dynamic vocal delivery and sustains many defining factors that make her stand out with a very captivating and charismatic aura.”
– Artist Reach, Justyn Brodsky
Discuss the changes in your life as an artist.
I have been writing lyrics and melodies since I was a little girl. I was always expressing my feelings and experiences through songs.
As I got older; different styles of music and experiences shaped me to become how I am today as an artist.
The older I get, the more versatile I have become and the more open I am to ideas.
I used to co-write tunes, but when I wrote one on my own, I was married to the song the way that I wrote it.
Now, whether I’m co-writing or not, I am more flexible about the end product.
I also don’t have to be the center of attention. I remember being in a band and I was the lead vocalist. The Bassist wanted to sing a song, and I was opposed to it, and felt threatened and insulted by it. Today, that would never happen. I appreciate everyone’s contributions to a song and I can sing a duet or share a stage with someone because it isn’t a competition, it’s a community.
The bottom line is that I know that I’ve improved as a songwriter and as a person.
As far as changes in how other people view me, it’s always fun to have people contact me about my songs – people that I don’t know.
Also, I recently had someone sing one of my own songs to me while I was commuting on the train, which was fun.
Explain what you have in mind before considering music as a career.
I thought about the impact it would have on my life, my family, my friends, my lifestyle and my finances.
I also thought about how the music business is a hard business and I knew that I would have to deal with accolades as well as plenty of rejection.
I also thought that I wanted to have an effect on people and become a part of the soundtrack of their lives.
Music is cathartic for me and it makes me happy when I am creating it so it was really great when I discussed it with my family and they were totally on board.
Discuss your experience in life.
I grew up in Brooklyn, New York and wrote songs as far back as I can remember.
I had insomnia as a child and would stay up at night writing songs.
I joined bands playing all styles of music. I even created an East Coast / West Coast female dance music duo with my best friend, Mimi Rossi!
I worked in nightclubs, which was fun, because I got to be around people who wanted to have fun, and I got to be around music.
I also spent time in bars listening to bands. I just soaked it all in. Eventually, I focus on starting a family and establishing a career in law.
Then I realized that you can never take a break from music because it will always call out to you.
After my daughter was born, I decided to pursue music again. Music is fulfilling to me, but I do have to say that my career in law is fulfilling as well as I am able to help people navigate difficult situations.
Name the artists that have influenced the world.
From my perspective, some of the artists that have influenced the world are Madonna, Michael Jackson, Sting, and Bob Marley.
Since I do country music, I’d like to mention a few artists who are country that have influenced the world as well. Those are Bob Dylan, Johnny Cash, Dolly Parton, Waylon Jennings, Merle Haggard, Willie Nelson and Loretta Lynn.
Discuss your moment of rejections as an artist and how you are able to cope and move on with your career.
I have had accolades and I have had horribly crippling rejections.
The music business is tough and it’s controlled by certain people who dictate what is hot and what is not.
I write my truth and I don’t really care about whether or not it will be widely accepted in the business.
If you don’t believe in yourself and your talent, you will be sucked under the muck.
The general public is made to believe that only the tastemakers know what good music is.
If a song is played enough times on the radio, people will start to like it.
My songs are played predominantly on internet radio, and some terrestrial stations, but I am not being played on mainstream radio right now.
When I have experienced negative comments, I’d be a liar if I didn’t say that it had an effect on me.
No matter how positive you are and no matter how many great things you hear about your music, it’s that one comment of rejection that will totally stop your breath.
I get past rejection by remembering that everyone has an opinion so it’s just one person’s opinion. And especially when someone’s opinion doesn’t matter to you, it shouldn’t count. I guess the fear is that the person knows more than you do or they will have some influence about how others think of you.
When you do the craft, you have to just do it and do it for yourself first and foremost. So I get through rejection by reminding myself of these types of things.
Tell us the most negative comment you have ever received.
I submitted one of my songs for a critique years ago and it got trashed. I can’t remember what the comments were – because I’ve probably blocked them out of my head – LOL – but it really crushed me and it took me time to recover because I doubted my whole ability to write songs.
Elaborate on the song.
The song was recorded at Dare Studios of Long Island with my long-time producer, Mike Epstein. It’s a little bit of a family affair. Mike plays various instruments. On Every Time, he played bass guitar. His wife, Hillary Epstein, sang background vocals on the track. His brother, Rob Epstein, played keyboards on the song. Skip Krevens plated guitar and pedal steel guitar, and Mike Sapienza played drums.
Aside from three of the musicians playing on the tune being related, all of the musicians have played on a number of my tunes and so it always feels like family when we are recording.
It’s a no-judgment zone and I am open to all ideas. When we all get together after I first pen a tune, it’s a beautiful thing how the song starts to fully form with all instruments.
All of the musicians who record with me are seasoned cover band and studio musicians.
All of these musicians have a wealth of talent, and have a keen sense of what I want out of a song.
It was no different with Every Time. After the song was fully produced, recorded and mixed, it was sent to Nashville, Tennessee to be mastered by Steve Corrao at Sage Audio.
State your artist’s name and elaborate on it.
I write and record under the name Big City Cowgirl. I chose the name Big City Cowgirl because I think it explains my core being.
I’m a girl who grew up in New York who loves Country Music and all things country.
I chose the name so that it would be reflective of my urban upbringing along with my country music heart.
State the title of the song and the meaning.
The title of the song is EVERY TIME. Its meaning revolves around the fact that relationships may not be perfect, but you get through the good and the bad together.
Despite moments where you feel overwhelmed and want to walk out the door, people build lives together and that is something to be admired and cherished.
State the title of the album and the reason for choosing the title.
This song was released as a single. I released an EP entitled City Zipcode, Country Heart a while back, and since then I have been releasing singles. I chose the album title, City Zipcode, Country Heart, because once again it was indicative of my life in New York, but love of country music, and desire to move to the country.